does blood related really matters....

To certain people, the answer is NO… where to certain people is YES… Human being is a very complicated creature. To certain degree of people, it doesn’t mean anything regardless it is blood related or not, their reaction is being ignorant and defiant on what happened to the people around them.

On the other hand, some people will give a hand to others regardless it is blood related or not as long as a person needs help. These people are the one who care, love, bonds, and regard family values very high and important.

It is cruel to realize that even if you are blood related, it is not necessary for a man to care about a person in the family member. Despite saying when the person is not your family member. These cases do revolve around us in reality where a man does not even bother or care on ones even though it is his closest family member. You might consider this group of people is being described as non-filial-piety category. The ones who help will be outsiders whom have the heart of philanthropist.

When a family member is walking through a death bed session, how could a human being become so ignorant and nasty especially when it is your closest family member? It is very cruel to encounter this experience. In which, I despise those people who don’t even know how to respect. In fact, I should say I pity them.

I personally believe, a man will receive retribution on what he did as life revolves around the circle. The same thing of what you have done, your next generation will learn and will do the same thing back to you. As Chinese says,” You will taste the chili is hot when you eat it”. Nevertheless, the worst is you are indirectly teaching the next generation what to do when similar problem applies. Your next gen will accept as it is a right thing to do.

Till today, I still don't understand how someone could be so mean to the person who has the closest relation/bond with you, who brought you up, and worries about you on 24/7 as nobody's biz. Parents who protect and defend on you no matters what happened. Most importantly, the ones who will never ever give you up and abandon you even the whole world does and always forgive you. Once you grow up, you practically forgot about this, especially when you get married.

As Chinese, ones do value priority of family especially when majority are descendants of Confucian beliefs. Ones are obliged to take care of your parents. Even though one was not, this is just a common sense for each of us to do so since our parents are the ones who brought us to the world, without them, we could not have what we achieved today.

The most despicable is if they are parents yourself. Don’t they ever think of what if their kids apply the same practice to them? Won’t they feel hurt?

I would say all parents in the families do believe their kids will never do wrong deeds and abandon the families. Should I say this is a wrong belief? Maybe 'living in a denial' will best describe.

In my point of view, it is already a common sense for us to give a hand to those who need; when it comes to your family whom has a blood related to you, it is more you should do so. To me, when an elderly is alive, you don’t even bother to care or pamper them as what they used to do to you. But, only to take action once they died and to show that you are filial children. Those are all useless; it is like acting a show.

My advice is to cherish what revolves around you now. Life is not predicted, you might not be able to do what you want in the next step. Live at fullness with no regret in future when you flashback.

Conclusively, I would say that blood related does matter, as the Chinese says, “To acknowledge the source of the water you drink”.

updates...

I haven't been blogging for quite some time, coz of laziness ckckck... since i'm waiting for my turn to so i better do sth about wat happening recently....

Tonite, we had a department dinner (each of us are entitled to $90 budget per year), a session where we're supposed to team bonding where it always ended up in food in our department practice. We finally decided to go to The Line @ Shangrila. Thursday is a special promo nite comes with free flow of drinks at $88/person. The total bill was $12xx+ and we got 32% disc due to staff reward cards (yes, it's our client) and final cost is $84x+ so it's quite a good deal and worth.

I should say The Line is worth every single cent with the standard and quality of the food. The seafood bar itself already more worthed than anything. The number of times i visited, it has never failed to satisfy my stomach ckckck.... They serve the best passion fruit sorbet where you can taste real passion fruit in every single bit.

I have been eating out quite a lot, the rally started since last Friday where we were out for mussels dinner on Friday @ Brussel Sprouts

followed up with walking to Liang Court for Starbucks (some pics).

Then on Saturday, we attended Summer fairytale's wedding @ The Regent. I should say that i'm quite impressed with the wedding where the couple actually compose their own song and even when for recording and sing it live. The song is pretty good and soothing. The couple is a perfect match where they drink, party, sing, and etc together. Best wishes for Summer and Xavier. Have fun in Sweden....

Last nite as i left office quite early, so my parents and I went for dinner @ Imperial Treasure Nanbei. Initially, our objective is to order something different from our regular order, however we ended up eating the same dishes. We did try the beef mushroom. It's yummy, the beef was so soft.

By the way, the latest movies i watch recently is Dark Knight which i watch a sneak on Wed 16th Jul. The movie is quite good and Christopher Nolan shot windy city till very nice (reflected the gotham city quite well) with the small alley. i give ****/5

I was offered a chance to catch gala premier of The Cliff but i skipped it due to the late nite opening and not strategic location - Vivo. :(

Well, recently i won 52 tickets from Cineleisure from the lucky draw i participated and share it with my colleagues. So i am starting to pick which movie i should watch now for the remaining tix...

Caffeine Effects...

Last nite we ended up at Vivo city to meet our high school friends (which my friend called old folks as we known each others since kindergarten). After dinner, we were at Starbucks and i ordered ice Americano as usual.

At nite, i was rolling on my bed and didn't get to deep sleep till 3:30 am. Part of it was also because i was waiting for my bro as he was coming from KL and didn't reach here till 2:30am. He was stuck at checkpoint for 2 hours (it's due to the malay's new year celebration where people are traveling back and forth b/w the two countries).

Caffeine (eg. black coffee, frap, mountain dew) doesn't really have effect on me regardless on how much i drank. Usually, only to certain degrees and time i will feel coffee is useful, however i still slept well at nite regardless on the timing i consumed it.

It's weird, the body just reacted differently....

Well, to certain degree where i need caffeine is when i'm really tired and i need it to keep awake. There was once where we had stayed up for the past few nite in around thanksgiving and we drove down to Chicago. We didn't sleep once we arrived Chicago and staying up early to queue for thanksgiving sale. Thus, by the time we reached downtown to Neiman Marcus, I got myself double shot espresso. Surprisingly, it kept me alert for the whole day and i felt energetic. I was the one driving the whole day and nite for 13 hours.

Another time is after lunch time, i would grab a cup to keep me alerted when i'm really sleepy.

Generally, I am not a coffee addicted but a juice addicted. Generally, i would drink 1-2 juice per day in different flavors. Occassionally, i will drink a coffee and i would just be fine without having one in my day. Indeed, my day must start with orange juice or else i would feel sick. Once i reached office, i opted for green tea.

Friday 21st Sep

Well, it seemed that it's hard to not mention about food when you're surrounded by a group of people who just adore and appreciate food. Well, i'm glad to be part of the member.

On Friday, my colleague Elvina was suddenly in a very good mood on having a nice lunch. Probably it's a friday and she started to get relaxed. At 11+ am, she started msn me to ask me where we should go for lunch and even said she would like to eat something nice other than our regular places.

I told her we got to travel a bit for a nice food and she said she didn't mind as long as it's not too expensive. My regular lunch buddies went down to town (Orchard) for Kyushu fair and i decided not to join them. So i told Elvina, there is one western restaurant with affordable set lunch we could try out at Tanjung Pagar but i couldn't recall the name but it's always featured in 8Days. Not that i trusted 8Days review as usually it's inaccurate. However, i don't mind trying.

Unfortunately, none of us could recall the name nor finding the magazine, so 7 of us ended up at New Harbor which is also a western along the stretch of Tj Pagar (bridal salons). Well, it's affordable and the food portion was quite huge. The food was quite delicious and nice and also because we're hungry. The best is there is no GST and service charge ckckck....



Another highlight is one of the restaurant owner (i guess), said if one of us are Mediacorp artiste hehehe..... (then we we giggling we don't want to be recognized MCS artistes but HK actress ckckck....)

Aside to that, Elvina had even planned for the tea. Starhub happened to give each of us a chinese cup with fruit tea for the midautumn festival. So Elvina came up with having a tea with mooncake during our tea time.
By the time we finished our lunch, it's almost 2:30pm so she said let's postpone the tea ceremony to 5pm. She obliged us to join her hehehehe.......

Because some of us had to attend SMA (sg media awards) @ Ritz Carlton and all of us know the food are suck, so they said they might want to eat sth before they headed to the event.
Side track - The highlight of the event is we won the media agency of the year woohooo....... hurray......

At 5pm, Elvina started to take all the cups to wash and made tea. After that she started to offer all varieties of mooncakes hehehee.... Well i didn't eat the mooncake but i drank the tea which is not that fancy. The taste of the tea was even worst when it's cold. ckckck....

Elvina and Joey did mention that we should light up some lanterns next Wednesday. I think this idea is because we received numerous email said that HK & TW offices will be closed on Wed and Thu to celebrate the mid-autumn festival while we have to work here......

Well, it's just a nice relaxing friday.

wat a hectic week 2...

If you read my previous post, you'd know i had a hectic saturday morning. The weather was so hot that sun was glaring with no grace.

I was sweating and just want to quickly return home to sit in an aircon room.

Almost reaching home, i witnessed an accident @ Shangrila. There was a CRV coming out and a mini lorry turned in. The lorry just hit the mid (front and mid door) of the car on the passenger site. CRV was an caucasian (think he's either oz or europeans with heavy accent - was with my ipod so didn't really pay attention) with his sgan wife (but doesn't look like SPG, indeed she looked well mannered). Lorry is an indian.

Then the caucasian came down and started to scold and said it's lorry's fault and kept repeating that it's all nonsense, don't talk nonsense, you're rubbish and etc. The wife is even fiercer by saying all the same thing as her husband and even speak in malay to argue. The lorry driver just kept quiet.

To my point of view, it's a both parties fault, so both have to be responsible. But they just blame it to the lorry driver. I'm not sure if they're taking advantage of him. Well, i had no right to say. Generally, as a human being, it's just natural for us not to admit the mistake during accident unless you're under certain circumstances. Still, i think the way the couple scolded is a bit too much. Since the accident already happened just call the police, it isn't necessary to curse. i felt pity for the lorry driver.

Well, the highlight of the story is just started, i decided to leave and one auntie passed by and asked what had happened so i explained and then she ask me to check out the license plate of the lorry and i told her. After that, she said don't bother, let's go to buy lottery in mandarin. She even asked me twice hahahhahaaha.... isn't it hillarious?

Oh yeah, it's sgans practice, when there is an accident, the first thing you pay attention is to check out the license plate and hope to strike lottery. Not sure if the number did turn out in the lottery ckckck.....

To think about it, i should had taken a picture....

wat a hectic week 1...

I don't know what i've done for the past week. It seems that i had accomplished nothing but created more trouble to clean up.....

During my part time job as desk receptionist in dorm, i had seen numerous check out of spare key as most of the time, they just left their keys. I was quite proud of myself as i just borrow the spare key for once during my 4-year-stay in the dorm.

Unfortunately within the past 4 days in the week, i had forgotten my keys twice. Luckily, i had a savior as my mom afraid that i would forgot my house keys so she attached one key with my cousin.

It all started on wednesday when i went to pick up mooncakes from Shangrila with my colleagues. To be smart and calculative, i brought my home keys so that i could drop the mooncake @ home directly without bringing it back to office as my apt is just next door. Once i returned to the office, i left the key on my desk and it became messy with all the papers piles.

Thus, at 9:30 pm, i happily went home with my colleagues on a cab. Not until i reached home and searching for the key to scan the door, i realized i had left the key in the office. Actually, i had a six sense telling me i forgot something and i thought it was my cell. I even checked it out but never realize it's my key.

I called my cousin to ask for the spare key and she said she need to check and if couldn't find she would drop me off to the office. Thus, i walked to her house and we mutually agreed seemed that my uncle took the key. We went to my aunt house and they were overseas and couldn't find it so my cousin called her mom and she said it might be at the bowl on the aisle rack, if it's not there then she wouldn't know. At the end, we manage to find it.

After that, on the way she dropped me home, we realized my cousin in law's dad passed away and we had to attend the wake as the crem is on next day morning. So we went home to take some cash and went for the wake. I ended up reaching home at 1 am and didn't get to sleep till 2am. As expected, the next day i was stoned and carrying panda eyes.

Yesterday morning, i was supposed to go to bank to help my mom run some errands. Thanks for Standard Chartered Scotts branch which catered the non working people office hours (M-F: 9:30-04:30, S: 09:30-11:30), i had to be there latest by 11:15am. As i was quite tiring, i didn't wake up till 10:30am. It was also due to my cell's alarm didn't rang. Coz i turn off the alarm for weekend during rumi's visit and forgot to set it again.

I was rushing and prepared myself to rush to the bank. When i came down, i realized i wear an uncomfy sandal so would like to change, and realized that i left my key. This is a bad time, as both keys are with me. Luckily the security has an access to my floor so that i can get back my key and rushed to the bank.

During my 3 years in SG, i had never forgotten to bring my keys whenever i go, i even laughed at my younger bro when he stick a post-it-note on his door to remind him of wat to do. I bet i had to follow his step now.

This morning during the dimsum session, i quickly return the spare key to my cousin.... ckckck....

back at work

recently i took leave to spend time with my buddy who visited me for the past week. 2 days return to work, i still felt stoned......

but today when i receive a comment from my client, i don't know whether i should accept as complimentary or oblige but i know my client are just in good mood and being nice to me :)))))
i decided to take it an achievement and token of compliment from my client. this makes me feel much more better ckckck.......

close to 3 years of working in singapore, i barely take leave and spend a day doing nothing but browse to the downtown especially on monday and tuesday. Practically, my leave is just too precious where i can't afford to waste but to maximize the utilization by traveling overseas or either going home.

Speaking of going home which i haven't been for the past two years and my mom has been quite demanding recently. I think it's because their regular visit to singapore has minimize my homesick and with many years of living overseas has made me used to it. Plus, the air ticket does not justify it. Somemore, the place i live now is indeed one of our home sweet homes.
Frankly speaking, if you ask me to stay in my hometown, i don't think i will survive.

back to my topic (i realize i love to gone off tracked... heheheheh.... pardon me for this....), when i was at orchard rd on monday i just felt so great that i don't have to wake up early on monday blue to get ready for work. During lunch time, i don't have to rush and squeeze in order to finish my lunch and return to office quickly. I felt relaxed just walking down orchard road and doing nothing. i started to feel pity for those working adults hehehee..... (quite wicked... ^^) i should say 'shiokkk...' (as what sgan means of awesome...)

Finally, i understand love to take leave on certain days but just to stay in sg and shop around.

On the other hand, i was wondering there are quite a lot of people who are on the streets as well, where they might be the rich tai-tais, expats or tourists........

I wish i could have more of this opportunity coming along.....

phew, i will not have any more leave after a wedding trip im going to attend end of the month in jkt. For the rest of the year, i will sit straight in my cubicle to continue daydreaming.

Live your DREAM

I have a feeling of abusing my ears by listening to my bro's chicken scream on his latest new songs collection which include one Jap song. Recently his taste of songs are a bit out of the circle.

In fact, i don't ignore usually he sings such a good song, but today he is just terrible. Watching him screaming in live motion is like riding a bumpy coaster in a rock n roll concert.

His voices is just too sexy till the Skype disconnect by itself.... ckckck

Mission - Accomplished?

On 1st Jan 07 while everybody was having a hangover, a gal was on her flight return to Singapore has energically setting a few missions to be accomplished in 2007:
- To convert my driving license
- To stay healthy

Time flies as nobody's business, it is now July and none of them is accomplished.I am telling myself: "Vera, what have you done?" Well, in a guilt sense, I replied with quite a few good excuses:
- Will accomplish after Lunar New Year
- Italy trip was on the way
- I was going to step to Tokyo for the first time in my life to meet Lucy......
- Work had been piling up since May....
- Spending high quality time with parents.

Overall, one thing at least I am proud is I have managed to find tennis buddy to play tennis and it has been going on for 3 weeks..... ^.^
Our target is to be like Amelie Mauresmo or Maria Sharapova ckckck.....

Finally.....

Finally after so many attempts, I have decided to start a blog in Blogger despite of all other spaces which i tried out. Again... following my bro's step (i felt into his crutches again, he might be proudly declare himself as a winner while reading this...) sigh.....

I have so many things to shout yet a limited time for me to share...